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Unlock the Life You're Meant to Live with Inner-Engineering

Do you ever daydream about a life where everything just... fits? 

A life where you wake up excited, filled with purpose and satisfaction? But then reality snaps back—maybe it's the sound of your alarm clock or the sight of your workspace. Suddenly, that better version of yourself seems far away.

Facing the Pain: When Reality Doesn’t Match Your Dreams

It’s painful to realise there’s a gap between who you are and who you could be.

This isn’t about failing to appreciate what you’ve got. It’s about feeling trapped in a life that doesn’t reflect your dreams.

You're not living up to your potential. You see friends or colleagues who seem to have it all figured out, and you wonder, "What do they have that I don’t?"

You’ve tried to change. You picked up new habits, set goals, and maybe even overhauled your lifestyle. And yet, something always pulls you back to square one. This cycle is exhausting and demoralising.

The Root of the Problem: You’re Following the Wrong Blueprint

Think about it this way: If you're building a house, you wouldn't just start slapping bricks together and hope it turns out okay.

You need a blueprint.

Yet, so many of us try to build our lives without one—or worse, we use someone else’s blueprint. You spend your life living a life that someone else wants for you. No wonder it feels like something’s always off.

I know this because I've been there. I was given a blueprint that said I needed to go to university, get a secure job, buy a home, save my money, and live until retirement.

The more I followed this path, the clearer it became that I wasn't happy. That life was never meant for me.

I wanted something different. I wanted to work online, own my own business, and be free to travel for a couple of months each year. I dreamed of a life where I could stand on my own two feet, independent and proud of the life I created.

But I couldn’t achieve that while sticking to the old, inherited blueprint. Something had to give, and that something was my entire approach to life. I needed to reverse-engineer the life I truly wanted, brick by brick.

Fast forward to today, I'm not just living my own blueprint; I'm thriving because of it. I holiday for two months of the year, run my own business, and revel in the freedom to do as I like.

Just recently, my business crossed the $80,000 per month mark. Looking back, I got there due to the power of following my own, authentic blueprint—not someone else’s.

The Inner Engineering Framework

Change, especially the kind that involves overhauling your entire life, is scary.

Many of us don't even know where to begin or how to approach such a monumental shift.

It's often simpler to stick to superficial changes—they feel safer, less daunting.

But the truth is, these changes aren't enough to propel you toward the life you truly desire.

The hardest part of initiating real change is recognising and letting go of the person you no longer want to be.

Because the person you are now is not the person who will get you to where you want to be—if they were, you'd already be there. The old version of yourself has to die for the new version of you to arise.

Let’s dive into how you can make this happen through authentic journaling:

1) Becoming Aware of the Person You No Longer Want to Be

As humans, it's often easier to identify what we don't want than what we do.

Start by recognising your current programming—your self-perceptions, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. They shape your life as it is now.

Journal Prompts to Identify Current Programming:

  • What negative self-beliefs hold me back daily?

  • Which of my habits are keeping me from moving forward?

  • How do my reactions to challenging situations hinder my growth?

Once you are aware of these, there are no excuses to continue running the old program. Awareness is the first step to transformation.

2) Architect the Life You Desire

Without a personal vision, you'll find yourself living someone else's. You need a clear, compelling vision for your life. We are goal-oriented creatures by nature; without something to strive for, we lose our way.

Journal Prompts to Define Your Vision:

  • How do I see myself in five years? What kind of person am I?

  • What values do I want to live by?

  • What skills and knowledge do I need to acquire to become this person?

3) Reverse Engineer Your Goal

Reverse engineering means starting with the end product in mind and working backward to figure out how to achieve it. For instance, if an engineer wants to build a bridge, they start with the completed structure in their mind and plan backward from there, determining the steps necessary to reach completion.

Applying Reverse Engineering to Your Life:

  • Define the ultimate attributes of the person you want to become.

  • Break down these attributes into skills, habits, and behaviors you need to develop.

  • Set milestones that act as checkpoints on your journey to becoming this new version of yourself.

By reverse engineering your goals, you create a pathway marked by achievable steps, making the daunting task of transformation manageable and clear.

Closing Thoughts

There's no shortcut to profound transformation. In a world that often glorifies instant results, it's important to know that great achievements need patience and persistence, especially when reshaping your life.

Many of us wish we could accelerate time—to get rich tomorrow or see results yesterday. However, from what I have learned and lived, great things need time to mature and flourish.

What makes this journey worthwhile isn't just the destination but the path itself.

Knowing that you are walking your true path every day makes a massive difference. It fuels your drive, sustains your spirit, and brings joy into the process.

So, take a moment to acknowledge where you are on this path.

Keep your vision clear in your mind, and trust in the process. Change won't come soon, but with each step in line with your true self, you build a foundation for a fulfilling and happy life.

Stay the course, be patient, and remember: the most extraordinary changes often come quietly.

One day, you will look back and realise just how far you've come—not just in what you've achieved, but in who you've become.

See you next week,

Stefan P.S: If you want to escape your 9-5, have clarity on your business strategy, earn more money, and work only 4 hours a day, I am opening up 4 coaching spots for my Peak Performer System


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